There is a private ritual I return to when I am carrying a weighty burden that sits heavy on my heart.
I begin by writing it out. Not carefully, not thoughtfully curated, but completely. Every emotion, every thought, every detail pours out in a raw and unfiltered release. It is messy. It is honest. I do not edit it or soften it. I simply get it out of me and onto the page.
Then I sit with it.
I do not avoid it or try to move past it too quickly. I let myself fully enter it. I look it in the eyes. I go down its throat. I allow myself to live, even if briefly, in the belly of it. For 15 to 20 minutes, I feel every ounce of it. The frustration, the weight, the discomfort. I let it move through my body in a way that is safe, but fully experienced.
After that, I go for a walk.
About 30 minutes along my river bottom trail, carrying the paper with me. There is no forcing in this part. No trying to solve anything. I simply walk and let things settle into place.
When I reach the top of the trail, I tear the page into small metaphorical pieces and release them into the flowing stream. It becomes a quiet offering. A symbolic and deliberate act of letting it go.
Recently, I released something I had been carrying for far too long. It had lingered like rotted vegetables, taking up space in places it no longer belonged.
I expected the river flow to wash it away quickly.
Most of it did. But not all.
There were residual pieces, small scraps swirling in the pools below. Each day I returned, I would notice that a few more had disappeared, yet some remained. It was not that the current was weak. It was that the backflow of the river held certain pieces in place and released them gradually.
At first, this bothered me.
I wanted it gone. Clean. Immediate. A full release right now!
But then something shifted.
I began to observe the process differently. Instead of resisting it, I found myself appreciating it. Even celebrating it. Each day, a few more fragments dissolved. A few more pieces disappeared. It was not dramatic. It was steady.
And it made me think.
How quick we are to want pain removed instantly, yet how deeply we want to linger in joy. We want the hard things rushed away, while we ask the beautiful moments to stay forever.
But life does not work that way.
This morning, when I returned, the final pieces were gone.
What surprised me was not just the sense of relief, but a quiet gratitude. It had not washed away all at once. It had dissolved, slowly and deliberately.
And in that slow release, something else had taken root.
The weight left, but the learning stayed. The strength stayed. The resolve stayed. A quiet confidence remained, absorbed just as gently into my soul as the paper had been into the water.
The deeper lessons in life seem to come this way. Not in sudden breakthroughs, but in deliberate, repeated softening.
If you are carrying something heavy, let it go, release it, but allow yourself to do it gently and deliberately. You do not need to rush through what is, in many ways, a sacred process.
There is something profound that occurs when we surrender to the timing of divine.
With all my confidence in the timing of your journey,
Rich Christiansen
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