As humans, we crave cadences in our lives. It’s not just the rhythm of regularity that makes us feel connected to a family, group, or business—it’s the accountability and connection that comes with it. You’ve likely heard me emphasize the importance of cadences of accountability in business: meeting at the same time and in the same format each week. This creates a rhythm of accountability, clear deadlines to work towards, and a chance to come together as a team. But these principles extend far beyond the workplace—they’re just as vital for our families.
Do you have comforting cadences in your family? Last week, my wife and I visited my fourth son’s home to hold our new granddaughter. As Tim and his wife Ashley prepared their sweet two-week-old daughter for bed, Tim asked each of us, including their tiny new addition, four simple questions: “What was your funny of the day? What was your sad of the day? What was your happy of the day? What was your spiritual of the day?”
I teared up, filled with that unique pride only a parent can feel, watching my son establish these deep, comforting routines for his own child. I knew exactly what Tim and Ashley were doing, but I savored it—sharing a piece of my soul and connecting deeply with theirs while holding space for accountability and bonding. Our deepest need as humans is to be seen, and this simple practice is like laying the foundation of stability for their emerging family.
Now, let me ask you: What impact do you think this beautiful little comfort cadence will have on this new family? Do you think my granddaughter will grow up to be open, expressive, and maintain a strong relationship with her parents, even through those challenging teenage years? I’d bet the farm on it!
I challenge you to create your own playful, simple, and comforting cadence in your family. It doesn’t have to be elaborate—just something consistent that brings you closer and keeps you accountable to each other. For more ideas and insights on setting up these frameworks in your family, visit LegadoFamily.com.
All My Best,
Rich
